If you have given thought to these issues in advance, you will be better equipped to deal with them when they arise as part of the negotiation part of the divorce.
Here are some of the common things you need to consider:
What happens to the children (if there are any)?
What happens to the matrimonial house?
What about money?
Remember, many of these issues could have very clear answers in your mind, but you should anticipate how your ex would react to your suggestions.
It’s very easy to say: “this is how it is going to be, and my word is final” but that won’t get you very far in a negotiation.
Your ex is far more likely to be open to compromise if you approach the negotiations in a constructive and positive way.
Ultimately, however you approach these negotiations, they always get resolved in one of two ways:
Also known as a Matrimonial Agreement, this can set out how you both can separate your lives in a reasonable and practical way.
The first option, the Matrimonial Agreement, is the most practical, cost-effective and sustainable way to solve these issues.
Even if you and your spouse cannot agree on everything, you should do your best to agree on as much as you can, before even considering referring the matter to the courts.
Asking the courts to make these decisions for you can be risky.
Court proceedings can be hugely expensive, they can drag on for months (or years), they take a huge emotional toll on everyone – and in the end, there is no guarantee that a judge will give you what you want (and the judge’s decision is final).
So, in line with what we have talked about already, once you have made the decision to get your divorce, think about these issues in a calm, unemotional and pragmatic way – insofar as is possible.
That’s the approach that will serve you best.