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How to approach the divorce process for the best results

Once you have decided that a complete dissolution of your marriage is what you need, you should approach the process in a calm and measured way.

You can find some helpful tips and pointers below.


This guide outlines general topics you should be thinking about if you want to get a divorce in Northern Ireland. But it is not legal advice. If you need legal advice, you should contact a specialist divorce solicitor for advice on your specific circumstances.

How to approach the divorce process for the best results

During divorces, couples often try to get revenge on each other, “win” arguments, or settle old scores.

Getting one over on your ex might feel good in the short term, but the pleasure doesn’t last long.

Tit-for-tat arguments can quickly descend into a complete breakdown in communications, which rarely helps you get what you want.

If you fall into the trap of letting the emotions cloud your judgement, it does nothing but:

  • increases the time it takes you to actually get the divorce
  • increases the stress the divorce causes you and the rest of your family
  • increases how much the divorce costs

It’s hard to exaggerate the importance of the following statement:

Once you’ve decided that divorce is the best option to take, resolve to approach it in a calm, mature and pragmatic way.

It’s worth bearing the following saying in mind: “You might not have had a great marriage, but you can have a good divorce.”

Approach your divorce in that frame of mind, and you’ll find that everything is quicker, less stressful, less expensive, and ultimately allows you to move smoothly into the next phase of your life.

The above article is part of our guide on how to get a divorce in Northern Ireland.

If you are thinking about getting a divorce, you should get in touch with a Northern Ireland specialist divorce solicitor who will be able to provide advice tailored to your own personal circumstances.

If you have any questions, you are very welcome to get in touch.

All the best,

The Team @ Lightlaw
Every effort is made to keep this guide up to date. Although it is not to be regarded as legal advice, we strive to make sure the information is helpful, accurate and practical. If you are a Northern Ireland divorce solicitor and have spotted an inaccuracy, you can submit a suggested change.
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